Being a gay man, many people have asked me how I can handle anal sex. First off, to be honest, I'm gay because I like guys, not because I love to have things shoved up my ass. Thus, anal sex is not gay sex. It is sex involving the anus.

This is a common misconception because many straight guys freak out at the thought of someone touching their anus. Honestly, the anus is a source of much pleasure. There's no shame in pleasure. Just realize that anal sex is not gay sex.

Also, many women are turned off about gay sex because of the intense pain that is often felt when you first start. This, ladies, is because many men are too selfish to take their time and make it good for you. Don't let a man come near your anus if you can't trust him to be slow and easy. It's important to realize that anal sex isn't just about thrusting.

Many people freak out about analingus because it seems kinda gross. Well, honestly, that just means you gotta clean up. I've found that enema bottles and/or douche bottles are great ways to clean out your rectum. Just be sure to empty the bottles and use the bottles with warm water, not enema or douche. Irrigate several times, until it comes out clean. Then clean the outside with soap and water. Your ready to go.

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